Friends list clearout
Jan. 23rd, 2004 01:47 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
compilerbitchI have just done a bit of a clearout of my friends list, removing a number of accounts for various reasons. Some were just dead accounts. Some were people I friended who didn't friend me in return, and/or who I've met and didn't hit it off with. They're gone.
I don't make many friends only posts anyway, it's pretty rare for me, so i'm not really denying people access to anything in particular. It's just that if I make an effort to be friendly to people and they choose not to reciprocate, frankly they can sod off. In the nicest possible way.
I don't make many friends only posts anyway, it's pretty rare for me, so i'm not really denying people access to anything in particular. It's just that if I make an effort to be friendly to people and they choose not to reciprocate, frankly they can sod off. In the nicest possible way.
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Date: 2004-01-23 06:20 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-23 06:34 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-23 06:36 am (UTC)I tend to speculatively friend people who seem interesting and/or are friends of friends. I do the same thing in real life, generally. I try to be friendly to people in both contexts, but if people don't reciprocate, blank me and/or are not very nice in return, I tend to give them plenty of chances, but ultimately my patience runs out eventually. I suppose this is a bit insecure of me really, I should be strong enough to say, oh well, they don't like me, big deal, but more commonly the result is me getting upset. I suppose it occured to me that, checking my info page, noticing that people hadn't friended me back was upsetting each time I looked, which is stupid. Better to hit delete and not mope over it.
There are a couple of people I've met face to face around Cam a few times and at parties, etc., who I've liked and made something of an effort with, but blanked me in return. I suppose it is them who can do the bulk of the sodding off I referred to! ;-)
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Date: 2004-01-23 06:43 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-23 09:26 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-23 06:46 am (UTC)i recently went through a defriending process - for pretty much the same reason - i had friended them but not visa versa. Its strange there are peple I know in RL who havent friended me back and i wonder sometime whether I should read more into this.
I have to admit that i find it quite hard to aceept that some of my friends dont get on with other groups of my friends. Even when I didnt know you for a few years i would tell people how nice you and
could it be that people are phased by you being interlectually bright at them?? [waves hand in air in a palms up fashion]
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Date: 2004-01-27 11:17 am (UTC)Maybe. Don't know. I must try harder to sort out my social isolation here, I think.
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Date: 2004-01-23 06:52 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-23 09:25 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-23 07:07 am (UTC)I'm just relieved that I've survived your recent cut-backs (especially as I haven't seen you in person in aeons). But I do hope that maybe you and Doseybat can come to the Dev and/or Wagamama for Lorena and my birthday celebration (Sunday 1st Feb).
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Date: 2004-01-23 09:23 am (UTC)As for cutting you from the list, no way. I mean, anyone who cares enough to fantasize about poisoning me with cinnanmon just has to be worth knowing (or at the very least, keeping a good close eye on!).
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Date: 2004-01-24 04:20 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-27 11:20 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-23 07:23 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-23 09:20 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-24 09:31 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-27 11:06 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-23 08:08 am (UTC)What I don't care for is to be on the friends list of people who don't read my posts. I don't care a lot for this business of different friends groups. It is taking LJ too far and playing a game which is not clever just immature. You either read posts or not and, if not, then signal that to your 'friend' by disappearing.
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Date: 2004-01-23 09:16 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-23 08:59 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-23 09:12 am (UTC)Re:
Date: 2004-01-30 07:46 am (UTC)I hope you didn't think I sounded miffed. I just hoped you didn't find it insulting I didn't add you back or anything, because I thought it was about that one post you know. It was a rather angry post, and I don't like stepping on people's toes. ;)
I'll add you back, too. Glad we cleared that up, anyways! :)
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Date: 2004-01-23 10:41 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-23 10:59 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-27 11:13 am (UTC)Re:
Date: 2004-01-30 05:52 am (UTC)whats PITA? other than a sort of bread
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Date: 2004-01-30 05:55 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-01-30 08:03 am (UTC)will go back to post and try to understand it in context
me confused
me off to have needles stuck in me
kate
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Date: 2004-01-30 02:15 pm (UTC)