compilerbitch

The hard thing to explain is that there are more than one way to get past something bad that's been done to you in the past. You can basically tell yourself that it's all OK now, and that works to an extent for me, but I find it better to acknowledge that, no, it really was NOT OK, but that I'm not letting that hurt me, and that I'm symbolically taking back what was taken away from me. This doesn't necessarily mean holding on to anger or rage. Rather, I'd prefer to let it go. But, letting go is only really effective if you're quite clear about what you're letting go *of*, and that's where the power lies.