Friends list clearout

[compilerbitch]

I have just done a bit of a clearout of my friends list, removing a number of accounts for various reasons. Some were just dead accounts. Some were people I friended who didn't friend me in return, and/or who I've met and didn't hit it off with. They're gone.

I don't make many friends only posts anyway, it's pretty rare for me, so i'm not really denying people access to anything in particular. It's just that if I make an effort to be friendly to people and they choose not to reciprocate, frankly they can sod off. In the nicest possible way.

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[mageboltrat.livejournal.com]

I check my friends list quite regualarly and if someone has friended me, if I have any clue who they are I friend them back.. the only times I don't is if they have stupidly high volume, and I can't keep up with there posts.

[fluffymormegil.livejournal.com]

"Default View" is your friend :)

[compilerbitch.livejournal.com]

That's generally my policy too. I suppose I was having a grumpy afternoon, so put things a bit more forcefully than usual!

I tend to speculatively friend people who seem interesting and/or are friends of friends. I do the same thing in real life, generally. I try to be friendly to people in both contexts, but if people don't reciprocate, blank me and/or are not very nice in return, I tend to give them plenty of chances, but ultimately my patience runs out eventually. I suppose this is a bit insecure of me really, I should be strong enough to say, oh well, they don't like me, big deal, but more commonly the result is me getting upset. I suppose it occured to me that, checking my info page, noticing that people hadn't friended me back was upsetting each time I looked, which is stupid. Better to hit delete and not mope over it.

doseybat summed it up quite well -- with her, most people like her a moderate amount. Whereas in my case, people seem to really like me or really dislike me. I don't really know why -- it's been a lifelong thing for me. As best I can tell, I'm always friendly to people, but somehow I seem to polarise their responses very extremely.

There are a couple of people I've met face to face around Cam a few times and at parties, etc., who I've liked and made something of an effort with, but blanked me in return. I suppose it is them who can do the bulk of the sodding off I referred to! ;-)

[blackmetalbaz.livejournal.com]

I really should get round to meeting you at some point :-)

[compilerbitch.livejournal.com]

Definitely!

[x-mass.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry your having a bad afternoon - i could mail you some tea if you like?

i recently went through a defriending process - for pretty much the same reason - i had friended them but not visa versa. Its strange there are peple I know in RL who havent friended me back and i wonder sometime whether I should read more into this.

I have to admit that i find it quite hard to aceept that some of my friends dont get on with other groups of my friends. Even when I didnt know you for a few years i would tell people how nice you and galliana were if that makes sense.

could it be that people are phased by you being interlectually bright at them?? [waves hand in air in a palms up fashion]

[compilerbitch.livejournal.com]

* shrugs *

Maybe. Don't know. I must try harder to sort out my social isolation here, I think.